“You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It will not happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.” (Joel Osteen).
Speaking about failure on the first blog of the year seems pretty negative, if not disrespectful. However, one cannot live with the mind-set that the road to greatness is paved with gold bricks, and lined by a queue of people cheering you along the way. In as much as the possibility of your dream is, so is the certainty of failure one way or another along the way; because success is nothing but faltering from failure to failure without losing sight of the glory that comes with achieving the end goal.
So, if you find yourself faltering along the way, do not be deterred and dare not abandon the rocky path and opt for the easy and smooth one. Here’s why:
- Failure is inevitable
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” (Michael Jordan). Do not be afraid be afraid because you fear failing. Everyone of have failed at one point in life, even if some of are afraid to admit it. Think of failure as one those you have to go through to learn. Show me a man who has never failed, and I will see a man who has never tried anything in life.
- Failure builds you
What separates those who achieve and those who do not is their ability to persist in the face of despair and defeat to make it to the mountain top. Failure should not break nor stop you; it should make you push harder to achieve your goals. “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” (Maya Angelou).
- Facing fear allows you to take more chances
If you receive a funny meme in the morning, you will obviously laugh. But receive the same meme from 10 friends, it becomes meaningless and a bit annoying (and data consuming). It is the same as having failed. Once you taste failure, it does not scare you anymore. You are willing to make more risks and chances because you know that failure is your end. “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” (Sir. Ken Robinson)
- Failure allows you to discover new paths
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” (Thomas A. Edison). Failure, oftentimes allows you to realise that the present path you are on is not the right one. And that is okay, because you then have the opportunity to seek out new paths and discover what is right for you. Otherwise, you might never consider pursuing different avenues and continue down the wrong path.
- Failure makes you a valuable mentor / coach
“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.” (William Arthur Ward). Failure allows you to be a great teacher, because through overcoming (fear); you will inspire others that it is possible even when faced with what looks today like insurmountable quagmires.
Hlumelela wishes you a progressive and successful 2017. It will be a tough journey, and for your dreams – it is worth it.
Remember that Hlumelela is hosting a seminar on the 4th of February 2017 to equip you with more tools to have “Your Best Year”.
Love and Respect,
Dumisani Mashaba is the Managing Director/Coach/Speaker at Hlumelela, http://www.hlumelela.com.